Management and conflicts

            Have you experienced being caught in between, from facing simple scenarios that require you to choose between either logging-in to Facebook or studying your notes for tomorrow’s major exam, up to complex decision-making of quitting from student organizations you have lived with during the rest of your college life for you to focus the velocity of your neurotransmitters to the goal of hitting that excellent mark in academics?

            Indeed, being caught in between opposing needs and drives during this age of adolescence and early adulthood is exhausting because conflicts we meet during these ages demand us of high mental struggle for our decisions would either make or break our successful future.

            The severity of conflicts we encounter merely defines the stage we have already reached in improving our management skills in this ORGANIZATION.

            We are innate managers of this organization we call life. And, the basis of determining the progress or achievement of this organization is the difficulty and number of conflicts we have already surpassed.

            This organization we call life is like a ladder. The manager has to come from the base first, and step by step, he will be able to reach the top where the trophy of success awaits. However, stepping upwards the ladder is not that easy. In order to move forward, one should overpower the conflict.

Winning the conflict will push you forward.  Managers who succeed are risk takers. Managers who take risks of decision-making usually stand for whatever their decision could bring. Managers do not often make the right decisions and this mistake usually serve as a conflict in continuing their role as managers.  If they have made decisions right, then good. However, a nice attitude of a good manager is making things right from bad decisions made. Treating the bad decision made as a blessing in disguise, an opportunity to learn and practice the lessons from the scenario the unexpected way. From taking the risk, whether making the right or bad decision, a good manager should learn how to improve himself utilizing the given situations. Only those who take risks can tell how far they can go. Managers who take risks go after what they want because they fear somebody else will. Managers who take risk ask for they fear they would never know the answer.  Good managers take the risk for if they don’t step forward, they will always be in the same place.

Ignoring the conflict will make you stagnant in that step of the ladder. Often playing safe in giving decisions usually makes no good in advancing in the ladder of life management. The presence of conflict is constant in the ladder. We could not avert it. If we will always try to avoid the conflict, it is just like avoiding stepping forward.

 Losing the conflict will pull you backwards, away from achieving the top where success awaits. A good manager needs to be strong because the pressure during conflict resolution is too forceful that it could turn one’s world upside down. Those who failed to have the enough strength to endure the hardship of resolving conflicts for advancing the steps in the ladder are often left regressed, living their  lives with lower quality compared before.

            As one gets better, the game gets harder.

            This principle could explain why college students like us have “toxic” lives. We have already gone through myriad diversity of experiences and innumerable mistakes. We have already gained and practiced those lessons in our day to day lives. Being in the momentum of having the positive track force, our developed skills require more challenge and more and harder conflicts to solve. We are no more elementary or high school students, so young to be care-free of what our future would be. We should be ashamed of ourselves if we are still at the initial steps of the ladder, going happy-go-lucky having zero conflict solved.

            So, if you are facing mind-tormenting turmoil and wondering why on earth are you so unfortunate to be given such kind of problem while the rest are relaxing in their comfort zones, just think that you are better manager than the rest, that you are able to reach higher step in the ladder, that you are now closer to the top, and that you are able to prosper the organization we call LIFE.

            However hard and deadly life management may seem, just keep moving forward. Win those conflicts. Achieve that success. Grab that power.